Tuesday, 27 October 2015

Young Love

I've been very nostalgic lately, today is mine and Oliver's second wedding anniversary so naturally I've been thinking about when we first got together and how far we've come. We've been together for 6 years now and I think we're pretty solid in our relationship, though some people tend to disagree. Some people believe that because we're only 21 our relationship doesn't have roots that run deep like that of a 6 year relationship between two 30 year olds. Those people think that because we're young we don't really know what we're talking about when it comes to love, let alone marriage. But in all honesty I don't know if those people actually understand what it takes to have real love. I don't think your ability to love someone depends upon how much experience you've had before them. I truly believe that no matter if you're 15 or 50, you can love someone whole heartedly and your relationship can grow strong like an oak tree. 

Let me share a little something with you from what I've learned about young love. 
When I was 14 and Oliver 15, we really liked each other but before he asked me out he said he had weighed up the pros and cons of dating me (Yeah, he's a lists guy) and that the only con was having to go through a breakup. I said to him, without realizing just how true it'd be, "who says we have to break up?". That triggered something with him and from that day forward we've been all in with no intention of ever stopping. 
People said a lot of things about our relationship; that we were gonna break up or get sick of each other after a year, that we needed to date more people to be sure, that we were just obsessed, that we didn't even understand what real love was...
But we didn't care, we knew what we had and we knew we weren't gonna give it up just because other people couldn't understand it. 
We had that young, bright eyed faith that we really could be together forever. 
We felt that way then, and now six years down the track we are even more sure. We've had hard times but our love has been able to withstand many a storm and come out the other side better for it. 

Some will say young love is puppy love, just infatuation or teenage hormones in overdrive. That kind of thinking doesn't help a generation of people who already give up on a thing as soon as it doesn't hold their attention. It makes fighting for someone you really love hard when you're in your teens and someone says "there'll be plenty of others, you've got years to find the one". Which is true mostly, but do we really want young people's look on love to be that you have to go through heartache after heartache till you're old enough to finally find the one?
I am still young so some of those who are older than me might think my opinion doesn't count but I believe that young love is sweet love, untainted and innocent love. A love full of hope not fear. 
I know the love I had for Oliver when I was 16 was as genuine as it is now and I've seen the same kind of fire in other people's eyes when they were the same age. There's really no reason to believe that young love for others is anything but the same amazing, life changing kind that I've had.
If I had believed what those other people said about young love, I wouldn't be blissfully married now, I wouldn't have a perfect little boy and I wouldn't be able to say, in 10 years time, that I'd been in love for most of my life. I wouldn't have grown up with the person I'm going to grow old with. 
When people fall in love, one really common wish they have is that they could've known their lover sooner, so that they could have loved them longer. If you're blessed enough to've found love early in life, cherish it. Hold on to it and nurture it, because it can be strong and everlasting.
I know things don't always work out for everybody when they're young but I want people to know that it can work out. 
I'm one of many examples that it can work out, it does last.

Whether you're 17 and reading this or 26, I hope that I've in some way encouraged you.
Anyway, that's enough of my notions for now! Till next time, hopefully very soon.

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